Every child wants to have both a father and mother
looking after them and staying beside him or her to the end of their parents’ life.
However, in fact, some children are not so fortunate and unfairly in this life they
have only a father or a mother due to their parent becoming a widower or widow.
Compared to widows, widowers often find they have more
difficulties in bringing up their children. They tend to stay hot-tempered and impatient
in a normal family life; however, they have to be both a strict father and a
patient mother as is the case with widows. Also, they have to face the change
in their lives to an irregular life that they have never considered they would ever
have. Especially, the widowers often have trouble in bringing up their daughters,
sharing their personal challenges with them when they reach the age of puberty.
In Duy Xuyen district there is a father of one of our
children that is a specific example for this topic. Before dying of breast cancer
one year ago, his wife had been staying in bed for 5 years dying. At that time
he took the main responsibility for looking after their three children, one of
whom has Down’s Syndrome, developmental delay and congenital heart disease. His
daily work included both farming to make a living, and looking after his
disabled daughter and in addition, while the two other children were at school,
he had to cook the meals and do housework so that his children would have a
clean home and rice to eat as soon as they come back home from school.
He has two daughters who have already reached puberty
which makes him worried a lot about how to deal with many things such their personal
hygiene, understanding the sensitive problems his daughters are facing, and
helping practically to prepare them for each of the important events in the
year such shopping for the Tet holiday and getting new clothes for them, and
all the preparation needed for the start of school each year with purchasing
school supplies and uniforms and being ready for the school opening ceremony
for each new academic year.
Despite a lot of financial and spiritual burdens, he
still lets his children’s education continue so that poverty will no longer be present
in their future.